Open your eyes and heart....
All because of Allah s.w.t
Thursday, March 3, 2011
coming back! (^_^)
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Dr. Roland Xavier - make it simple and easy!
Monday, January 10, 2011
doodling.. =)
Sunday, January 2, 2011
cooking times with creativity!!
negotiation and you...

On 22nd and 23rd of December 2010, we met Mr. Hisham again on The Art of Negotiation session. We were taught about the skills to negotiate with other and it was awesome. Thumbs up!
According to the notes that given to us, first step before you want to negotiate, please get know the REAL you. Know your personality (extrovert or introvert), family background, and view towards challenges, failures and success. And also get know the parties that you want to negotiate. Gather the information about their culture and background. In real world, actually everybody negotiates. Before we further on, what is NEGOTIATION? Negotiation is "to discuss with the goal of finding terms of agreement." Unfortunately, nowadays, many people interpret negotiation as being the skill of persuading other people to accept their point of view. Is it? Answer it to yourself.
There are 2 primary types of negotiation. First is DISTRIBUTIVE NEGOTIATION. It is known as fixed pie. Parties will compete over distribution of a fixed sum of value. In the real world of negotiations, two parties face off with the goal of getting as much as possible. For example, the seller wants to go after the best price they can obtain, while the buyer wants to pay the lowest price to achieve the best bargain. It's really just good old plain haggling, just like playing a tug of war. In this type of negotiation, information plays an important role.
There are several tips to seal this kind of negotiation which are:
- Start of the right price
- Do not disclose significant information
- Know the information about the other parties
- Exploit what you learn about the other party in setting your first demand
- Don’t overshoot
Second type is INTEGRATIVE NEGOTIATION. Integrative means to join several parts into a whole. Conceptually, this implies some cooperation, or a joining of forces to achieve something together. It is usually involves a higher degree of trust and a forming of a good relationship. Both parties want to achieve something which has value by getting what each wants. Ideally, it is a twofold process and it is often described as the win-win situation. Both parties will gained many advantages when they take a cooperative approach to mutual problem solving by using creative problem solving methods.
For sealing the integrative negotiation deal, you should:
- Provide significant info on their circumstances
- Explain why they want to make a deal
- Talk about the real interest and business constraints
- Reveal in general terms the preferences among issues and options.
- Consider any additional capabilities or resources that might meet other side interest
- Use what learn to find creative options.
Now, come to the fundamental concepts in skilled negotiation.
- Know your BATNA (Best Alternative To Negotiated Agreement)- you have to know what to do if the negotiation fail and able to make best decision.
- Reservation price – it is a least favorable point at which one will accept a deal.
- ZOPA (Zone Of Possible Agreement) - set of agreement that potentially satisfy both parties.
- Value creation through trades – good exchanged had only modest value to their original holders but exceptional value to the new owners.
As a negotiator, play the game well by:
- Getting the other side to the negotiation table
- Making a good start. For example, express respect for the other’s side experience and expertise.
- Establish the right tone
- Do active listening
- Close the deal
- Frequently asked question.
So, play well and keep practicing dear. Be an effective negotiator and win the best deal. But remember this, in Islamic perspective, it is not about winning the deal. It is useless if you win the situation by cheating or tricks. Be honest, and all we want is only “BARAQAH” from Him. He will lead us to right path. I end up my post with this prayer…
“O Allah! Put affection amongst our hearts, set right our matters between ourselves, guide us to the ways of peace, save us from the darknesses towards the light, save us from all kinds of indecency; the apparent as well as the hidden, and give us barakah in our hearing, our seeing, our hearts, our spouses, our children, and turn in mercy upon us. Indeed You are the One who greatly accepts repentance, One who is repeatedly Merciful.” (Al- Hakim)
Thursday, December 30, 2010
be CREATIVE!

Bismillahirahmanirahim,
Alhamdulillah, we meet again. Thanks to Him, give us one more chance to ask His forgiveness and enjoy our life. Almost all the time we forgot to show our appreciation and grateful. First month end yesterday. After had been ‘brain washed’ by Madam Sita, Madam Liza and Miss Nani, my friends and I have come with new spirit in blogging. Sorry for not being such a good trainee. But I know we will try to improve.
Second module for second month in Best 2010. Today is our first day, learning about creativity and innovation with Prof. Barjoyai Bin Bardai. First thing that I have noticed today is every second, our mind keep thinking and make thousand of decisions without we realize it. It’s true. Second, do not judge too early cause you may kill the ideas of other person and make them down.
We were introduced about IQ (intelligence), EQ (emotional), CQ (creativity), SQ (spiritual), and PQ (entrepreneurship). All these aspects must balance in ourselves. IQ has been inherited from parents but others you have develop by your own. For me, it is useless if you have high IQ, PQ, and CQ level but your EQ and SQ are low. You are superb with data and facts but when comes in dealing with feeling, you fail to face it wisely.
Our first topic is about creativity and innovation. At first, some of us thought that this topic was too heavy and suppress our mind. But actually not at all. We enjoy our class today. It is interesting when we know there are so many new inventions out there and sometimes it looks weird and out of norm. But actually, that is CREATIVE. Something that is out of context and some people may say that it’s impossible.
So, what is creativity? How we know that we are creative enough? The definition of creativity is the ability to discover new relationship, to look at subjects from new perspective and to form new combination from two or more concepts that already in the mind. During the process, mind will re-arrange and associate all the knowledge and experiences in new ways. It is process of blending of knowledge, imagination and evaluation.
How about innovation? A convenient definition of innovation is the successful introduction of a new thing or method. It is also known as embodiment, combination, or synthesis of knowledge in valued new products. For example, Alexander Graham Bell was the inventor of telephone, and after that, other people improved the design of telephone and the function. During that era, telephone was only used to voice call but now, there are video call, wiFi and many more. Alexander Graham Bell was a creative person and the persons that improved his product were innovative. They upgrade the value of invention.

But sometimes, when we try to be creative or in other word, being different from others and norm, people will call us weirdo, nerd or alien and look at us like we are criminal. Actually all this is based on the thinking paradigm. According to Edward De Bono, human being has developed their “logic bubble” in mind through experiences and knowledge. When they find some new things that are not install in their logic bubble, their will reject it. In this logic bubble, there are 5 aspects that are considered which are culture, way of life, basic perception, norms and regulations. This bubble is covered by EGO. It is important to have ego to have pride and self important but you have to control it.
So, to be creative, you have to know the concept of creative thinking. The paradox in creative thinking is:
CREATIVE IDEAS = NEW IDEAS = WRONG IDEAS
Hence, ALL NEW IDEAS = WRONG IDEAS = STRANGE IDEAS
All new ideas are wrong because it does not fit to logic base in our mind, and never been accepted before. And all new ideas are good ideas because it is basic spirit in creative thinking. So, all new ideas are creative ideas.
Today session made us open our mind. Don’t be afraid to be creative. Think out of box. People may laugh at you but we never know what will happen in future. Maybe you will the one that smile to them back. Who know? So, keep moving. Try your hard to contribute something to the world.
May Allah bless us and see ya!
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
path to "destination"..go Khadijah!(^_^)
its a long journey to go..your may face many obstacles,challenges.. don't give up.Face it and ask His guidance. keep on your stride..and smile always!Monday,is our mock interview. ops,quite scary..heee..actually,not too scary. Its a nice experience and memory to remember..thanks Mr. Abdullah..I will do it and learn more. Keep practicing until I can speak English fluently even in dream..hehehe.. Your advice will be always in my mind,insyaAllah.
Yesterday, I had present my topic, "Stress Management" during the public speaking session. Alhamdullilah, Mr Hisham said its good. Actually I think I can do better,insyaAllah. I'm little bit nervous at first,but after that, its went smooth. Thanks to all the Trainers. They teach me a very valuable skills and knowledge. But, I promise myself, that I will try the best next time..Thank you Mr. Hisham,you boost my confidence and spirit to try harder. I know I have to polish it and improve more.
Frankly, I really feel extremely grateful to Allah because He plan the best for me. Love to be here,knowing each other, learning and experiencing new things. Allah, thank you for give me the chance to enjoy my life. I know, life is sometime hard and make me cry, but I know, You always be here to consult me. This is my journey..all of us have our own path,we choose different ways but the final destination is SAME. We will meet there soon..See ya!! (^_^)
